A book about funny life stories, references to Harry Potter, and a love for fashion? Sign me up! I was ecstatic to get the chance to read Mindy Kaling‘s book Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? for several reasons. And, just in case her sense of humor wasn’t enough, she basically sold it in the beginning by saying, “This book will take you two days to read. Did you even see the cover? It’s mostly pink.” She was right, by the way. I read the book mostly on the plane ride up to NYC last weekend, and I finished it the night I got home. I started out knowing that I would find several moments in the book that would make me feel like, “This Mindy! She totally gets it (and me)!” I started tagging pages that I felt would be nice to share. Like Mindy, I, too, enjoy making lists. So, here are some of my favorite parts from IEHOWM (in order of how they appear in the book because I can’t decide on which ones I like the most):
“Harry Potter Secret Book #8”
This was a possible title for the book. I don’t know why she was advised not to use this name. In fact, this book was technically my Harry Potter 6.5 (since I read it right in between books 6 and 7). It seemed fitting.
“How can you not make a best friend out of a girl who has seen the sweat-soaked pelvis area of your gym pants, daily, and who still chooses to spend time with you?”
I love you, Kassie, and the fact you make me work out. ❤ There are few people who I allow to see me sans makeup, and even fewer who get to see sans makeup plus sweaty mess. Consider yourself loved.
“In psychology (okay, Twilight) they teach you about the notion of imprinting, and I think it applies here. I reverse-imprinted with athleticism. Ours is the great non-love story of my life.”
Ask anyone who has seen me play any sport, ever, and I’m sure they’d say the same thing about me. Coordination and I just don’t seem to get along.
“One friend with whom you have a lot in common is better than three with whom you struggle to find things to talk about.”
I just love this! It makes me thankful for all my amazing friendships (and our mutual love for donuts and beer tasting — not at the same time (but maybe sometimes)).
“I’m the kind of person who would rather get my hopes up really high and watch them get dashed to pieces than wisely keep my expectations at bay and hope they are exceeded.”
I like this motto. Life’s too short to aim for the expected. We should all be so courageous to believe that the best will happen, and that anything less is silly to even consider.
“One small break to look up exactly how almond milk is made, and four hours later I’m reading about the Donner Party and texting all my friends…”
“This is why I never eat cupcakes anymore…Lucky for me, the mighty doughnut is making a comeback. No one better ruin doughnuts for me, or I will be so pissed.”
I’d be pretty upset at anyone who ruined cupcakes for me, but DONUTS!? No. Unthinkable. (Also, why are there two spellings of this delicious treat? Pardon me while I Google.)
“In my mind, the sexiest thing in the world is the feeling that you’re wanted…The simple overture of wanting me can satisfy my ego for a good long time.”
She also goes on to outline how a one night stand sounds like the perfect setup for murder.
See. She GETS me!
“You really like not wearing underwear? Am I the only one who finds that totally uncomfortable?”
No. You are not alone!
“It makes me cry because it means that fewer and fewer people are believing it’s cool to want what I want, which is to be married and have kids and love each other in a monogamous, long-lasting relationship.”
Preach! I feel so happy for my friends that have found a way to make this work, and I hope that one day I, too, can be a part of that club. (But, I can wait on the whole “having kids” part right now.)
“Men scare the shit out of me. Men know what they want…”
If guys read any part of this book, it should be this. All of this!
“She realized — as has almost everyone I know who has been left or broken up with — that, by divorcing her, her husband relieved her of the job of eventually leaving him.”
I actually had an “ah-ha!” moment while reading this book. Coming out of a recent breakup myself (ok, ok. It hasn’t been that recent, but the wounds haven’t fully healed yet.), I tried to apply this statement to my own life. My breakup didn’t involve any scandal, cheating, lies, big arguments, or major disagreements. In fact, we were best friends who rarely ever argued (never, really) and got along beautifully. That’s why the breakup was such a shock to me. I realize, now, why it had to happen. I wanted there to be more to the relationship — a concrete future, a marriage, or at the very least, a monogamous, long-lasting relationship. And, even though we were in love (and dated for 8 YEARS), he “wasn’t ready” to get married. I was willing to wait forever, possibly giving up my own dreams of being a wife and one day starting a family. He was well aware of my aspirations, and probably even more aware in knowing I would never be the one to leave in order to search for it with anyone else. He saved me from making the decision to walk away, and in that gave me the freedom to go after my dreams, whether it be in a relationship, traveling, a new career, or whatever I may change my mind to do day by day. I know I never would have been able to come to this conclusion on my own. I wouldn’t have been able to let go, so I’m thankful he gave me what I’m hoping I will one day be thankful for.
There are many other tabs that I have marked in my book, but a list of 12 is probably sufficient. If you want more (and trust me, you do), go out and get the book. If you don’t like it, you can probably stop reading my blog, too. I’m not sure what it is that you like, but you’re probably not going to like anything else I write if this book isn’t up your alley. Just sayin’.
Once again, thank you Birchbox for giving me two days of laugh-out-loud moments with Mindy in the August Birchbloggers Book Club. I’m looking forward to next month’s pick, Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty.
*Please Note: This post is a personal review of Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns). A copy of the book was supplied by Birchbox for blog post. Quotes are by Mindy Kaling, but all opinions are my own.*